Posted by Some Dude on April 18, 2011 at 9:48 am
Hi all! You may know me as a prolific commenter on HarvardFML; this is my new and improved means of doling out relationship advice! My apologies for my two-month absence – I got crazy busy, as happens from time to time. Anyway, got a question you want to ask, or a situation you want thoughts and advice on? Email me at somedude.harvardfml@gmail.com, and watch this space for my answer! River House asks,
Last week, a grad student friend/romantic interest whom I met last summer took me out. Last summer, I’d always freaked out because he was pretty aggressive and I was still a virgin. Last week, we had a great time going to a couple of bars and talking, and we ended up in bed at his place. He says he doesn’t want to be in a relationship because he’s busy, but I can’t stop thinking about him. I think I want something more than just sex, but I’m not sure what. So my question is, how do you think he sees me? Do you think he sees me as a potential girlfriend or just some slam piece? He’s definitely someone I would want to date in like 3 years, but I can’t see myself dating him now. Is there a way to position myself so that he will want to date me in the future?
I think you hit the nail right on the head with how you framed your ultimate question: “Is there a way to position myself so that he will want to date me in the future?” That is exactly the right way to think about this.
Let’s be clear from the start: this guy may be a tough nut to crack. You may think your options are roughly (a) change his mind about dating, (b) continue to see him but not be emotionally attached, or (c) look elsewhere. I think that’s the wrong way to look at it though, because to make this work you’re going to do all three at once. Let’s examine the situation and see how that would work. Read the rest of this entry »
Posted by The Voice Staff on November 5, 2009 at 9:00 pm
Oh honey, my mascara does that smeary thing too sometimes.
In weird Harvard-related news:
A man from Harvard Business School allegedly choked a cop this weekend – while dressed in drag. Naturally he was dolled up for the Priscilla Ball (as in, Priscilla Queen of the Desert) hosted by the HBS Australia and New Zealand club. We hope this all gets sorted out soon and that the officer involved was not hurt in the scuffle. And while we shake our collective heads in shame at their conduct (that’s certainly not the way a lady behaves), we can’t help but chortle a bit. Plus, the word-nerd in us is weirdly excited – ever notice that grad also spells drag?
But certainly the most entertaining/infuriating aspect of this whole affair is the comments left by anonymous users on the source site. And while we certainly agree that Harvard’s image has declined in recent times, we can’t help but ask that random people on the interwebs calm the heck down; a couple rowdy grad students ≠ the end of Harvard and the world as we know it. Read our “favorite” comments after the jump! Read the rest of this entry »
Posted by Qichen Zhang on October 1, 2009 at 2:08 am
Noice's alternative to soggy PB&Js at FlyBy.
Let’s face it–that line at Flyby down in freezing-cold Loker is never going to get shorter before 1pm, so it’s time to find new digs to refuel after Mankiw’s lecture on… whatever. (Not like anyone was listening.) Next time, venture into Café Gato Rojo, almost hidden between Grays and Matthews and nestled in a nook underneath Dudley House, for a quick cappuccino and for a nice respite from the lunchtime fury.
With a conscientious menu of fair-trade coffees, Gato Rojo also offers muffins, scones, and other baked goods made fresh daily. For those not inclined toward caffeine (to which we say “WTF”), a generous selection of bottled juices, loose teas, and other beverages are also available. Not only do they take Crimson Cash, but a small coffee only costs around a buck. Read more about the hipster invasion at Dudley’s premiere lunch spot after the jump.
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