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I’ve been on a few dates with an awesome girl, and I really want to kiss her but I don’t really see the signs and don’t know if it’s because she’s losing interest or is just very shy. Or if I’m bad at picking up cues. FML

Here’s an excellent technique I learned of a few years ago that has never yet failed me: in a romantic setting, if you want to kiss her but you’re afraid it’ll be unwelcome, play with her hair! Just brush the ends gently. If she lets you play with her hair, she’ll let you kiss her.

If you’re not moving forward, you’ve moving backward. Nothing kills attraction more than boredom. If you’ve been on several dates and haven’t kissed, your window might already be closing fast. I understand the nervousness; I’ve been there! Even if all the signs say go for it, you’re afraid that you’re misreading them, so you wait for perfect clarity. Well, as I’ve had to tell myself at various times: “Stop waiting for the perfect moment and just kiss her already, dumbass!”

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